I was contemplating the other day about a particular problematic thought I had when I saw the most gorgeous 4 or 5-year-old girl walking around in the Philippines - I thought ‘my goodness, that girl will be a heart-breaker one day’. Seems innocent, right? Yeah, it is on the surface… but on further reflection, I realised I’d wronged her. Let me explain.
We shouldn’t be calling our little girls (and boys, for that matter) heart-breakers for their big eyes or their pretty, symmetrical and picture-perfect faces. We feel compelled to, but we shouldn’t.
We should be considering kids heart-breakers when they say something funny, or do something brave. We should consider kids heart-breakers when they master a task, think outside the box or crack a big smile. We shouldn’t perpetuate the idea that love is a game played and controlled by those who simply look the nicest.
Altogether it’s pretty lame system, and I personally don’t think it helps young people navigate dating and relationships when it’s eventually their time anyway.
Just a quick blog so I don’t forget I had the revelation.
Hope I’m on this with more shitposting in 2019.
x M
